Dementia

[Baggieneil]

Saw my mom on Monday at the care home she is in and we were outside, 2 metres apart and it’s the closest I’ve been since pre lock down when all I’ve been able to do is wave through a window or FaceTime.

Anyhow, for the first time in my life my mom didn’t recognise me when she saw me and then kept saying my brother’s name when the carer kept asking who I was and would say it’s not me when told who I was.

I knew this day would come,  but it’s still bloody sad that now my mom is almost mentally dead.

Have the same with my Mum(Who used to watch the Baggies in the 50's)
She went into a home the week before lockdown. I've seen her twice since.She's 83 Saturday but i won't be able to see her as from now my brother is the only designated family who can see her.
Found out she won't go to bed screams at the carers also he mobility has got worse.
Not sure if i will see my Mum again.awful times.
feel you pain Fulham Fallout

[Fulham Fallout]

I’m sorry to hear that Neil. I’m also sorry to read all the posts above of other posters who have lost parents with this illness.

I read about the government’s ruling that only one family member can visit a resident in a care home and think that is absolutely disgraceful. I’m waiting for the care home my mom is in to enforce this.

[baggpuss]

Nasty, nasty illness - condolences to all affected by this.

[Stratfordbaggie]

Only just read this, thoughts are with you and family. Awful illness which needs specialist help and support, it is still good to communicate, both verbally and non verbally. 

Some good support groups out there if it helps at all.

[Hopalong]

Saw my mom on Monday at the care home she is in and we were outside, 2 metres apart and it’s the closest I’ve been since pre lock down when all I’ve been able to do is wave through a window or FaceTime.

Anyhow, for the first time in my life my mom didn’t recognise me when she saw me and then kept saying my brother’s name when the carer kept asking who I was and would say it’s not me when told who I was.

I knew this day would come,  but it’s still bloody sad that now my mom is almost mentally dead.

I can totally empathise mate as my Father had this awful condition for 10 years and it's heartbreaking.   

The only advice I can give you is that even though she may not know who you are do your best to go and see her often because She will have moments of recollection.  And she's your dear Mum after all.  And when She has gone you will have no regrets.