Splitting up with the Mrs.

[MrBater]

Wasn't sure if you were joking when you first posted. Hope you're doing well lad.

[Josh1873]

Wasn't sure if you were joking when you first posted. Hope you're doing well lad.

I wouldn't joke about this, lad. 

I've had long term relationships that have broken down before for various reasons, but this is the one that's hurting the most. I thought it'd be easier the older you get! 

I know I'm being soppy on here, but it's helping in a small marginal way.

[MrBater]

I really don't want to come across as making this about me attitude, but it helps, as always, talking to strangers about this shit.

I like my own company, and I've got plenty of hobbies in mind to pursue once I'm over the initial shock and pain. But right now, nothing is fun, everything is boring, time is so slow, and I can't concentrate with all the whirring thoughts.

I'm aware this will pass, and time is helpful, but that's not really a comfort in the moment. It's just a vile experience to go through. But I'll get through it, eventually.

Mate, you've cleared labelled the post, it's totally fine being about you.

I've had a bit of a fall out with the Mrs daughter, so I spent Christmas alone, barely seen anyone, so I know what you mean about the numb loneliness.

[Lurker#3]

"Have an angry wank and cheer your self up..."

Obviously I am joking. Take care of yourself. A break up is the same grieving process as a loved one dying. Take your time and try and make as many healthy decisions as possible in the coming days and weeks.

[KRO]

I really don't want to come across as making this about me attitude, but it helps, as always, talking to strangers about this shit.

I like my own company, and I've got plenty of hobbies in mind to pursue once I'm over the initial shock and pain. But right now, nothing is fun, everything is boring, time is so slow, and I can't concentrate with all the whirring thoughts.

I'm aware this will pass, and time is helpful, but that's not really a comfort in the moment. It's just a vile experience to go through. But I'll get through it, eventually.

Mate, you've cleared labelled the post, it's totally fine being about you.

I've had a bit of a fall out with the Mrs daughter, so I spent Christmas alone, barely seen anyone, so I know what you mean about the numb loneliness.

If that’s how you feel, make things better. Life is short mate.

[Bromley Baggie 2]

Take care, fella.

Many years ago (nearly 19 years ago now) my first marriage went bad and we split up. You obviously feel numb for a few weeks/months, but things do get better. I met someone else, moved to London (hence my username) and started a new life here. It hasn't always been easy but I'm glad with the way things worked out.

The future is bright, so keep on keeping on and enjoy life. Don't obsess over what you had, look forward to what's to come.

[Josh1873]

I'm taking care, and I'm in no danger of doing anything harmful. I'm just conscious of how I'm relying on the local for comfort. Not just alcohol, but routine, getting out of the house and speeding up time.

The most crippling thing I'm finding is how slow time goes when I'm sat working.

I woke up at 6am today, for example, and I've suffered with the usual numbness, anxiety and other shit, for 6 hours, non stop. And it's only 12. And you look at the clock and think 'another 5 hours of this, before I log off'. It's unbearable. I know it'll pass, but it's still naff

It takes its toll, you're knackered, but you can't switch off and sleep. Exhausting.

I know this isn't unique to me, and we all go through it. But it's helping to document it.

[SausEggBaton]

Josh. Women are like fine wines. All of 'em shit until one idiot recommends them because they are being paid for it. Not saying that you ex would accept zlotys and such but, think about it, would you recommend them?

Anyway, I thought you was in my God fearing sexy beast Mowatt camp, we're allowed to yonder on an attractive man playing football, but still live out our lives!!!

She's worthless to you and could never lick your feet in sexual gratitude, choose life!!!!!

There's more women mate. Billions of them.

[SausEggBaton]

I'm taking care, and I'm in no danger of doing anything harmful. I'm just conscious of how I'm relying on the local for comfort. Not just alcohol, but routine, getting out of the house and speeding up time.

The most crippling thing I'm finding is how slow time goes when I'm sat working.

I woke up at 6am today, for example, and I've suffered with the usual numbness, anxiety and  other shit, for 6 hours, non stop. And it's only 12. And you look at the clock and think 'another 5 hours of this, before I log off'. It's unbearable. I know it'll pass, but it's still naff

It takes its toll, you're knackered, but you can't switch off and sleep. Exhausting.

I know this isn't unique to me, and we all go through it. But it's helping to document it.

If your WFH have a 30/45 min power nap on your lunch break. Remember to set shit loads of alarms, on various devices, because you will go into a deep sleep.

[Baggiejacko]

Josh it will all be a different scenario soon. It'll be in the past. In the mean time dig yourself out of any bad stuff and get out with people. Even being with strangers is better than being alone. Keep your mind occupied as much as possible. Treat it like an escape from prison and enjoy stuff you couldn't do in a relationship. Go gerrum kid