05-24-2021, 04:48 PM
(05-24-2021, 03:59 PM)Pipkins Wrote: Its down to parents & upbringing
When a child is born its a blank
It learns from its environment
At the same time society has made up excuses for peoples bad behaviour
claiming responsibility discipline respect good manners are all optional rather than the norm
A lady I know works as a cleaner at a school for unruly kids
She caught a child throwing food on the floor
She told the child to clean up the mess
The headmaster pulled the woman up & said we don't tell them, we ask them!
A couple adopted two brothers almost from birth
Raised the two boys into a good loving home
Boys did well at school into sport etc
Then the birth mother contacted them via social media (no law preventing it via this platform)
The chats got more frequent
Visits took place
Followed by sleepovers
Eventually the boys moved in with their birth mother despite objections
Heartbroken adopted parents were contacted by ss about the boys later on
Apparently their school attendance was poor & were suspected of dealing/taking drugs
Parenting and upbringing follows cyclical patterns. There is no parenting school! If you are a parent with a poor education, low self esteem and little aspiration in life how do you educate your children to be different. If the only way you can see people around you making money and getting peer respect is through criminal activity then you may very well follow that path.
It is societies job to help break the cycle and plug the gaps through school and out of school provision. To show these kids the alternative options and provide them with aspirations.
Demonizing the poorest in society as scroungers or criminals without addressing the the cause is lazy and counterproductive. And I don't think anyone can make judgement unless they have been in the situation themselves.....I can tell you from personal experience that trying to live on benefits is no Disneyland break.